Is your Child/Teen Performer trying to Tell you something?

Being a child or a teen performer can be very stressful with high levels of anxiety for both parents and the performer.  The passage  of time between childhood and teenage years and teenager to adult is also a difficult and emotional transition.


Your young performer maybe very talented and love to perform but is unable to handle rejection, stage fright,  competition and/or working in a group.  As the parent, you need to make sure that your child wants to be in show biz as much as you want them to be in show business, or that they maintain their love for the art.   Some children may want to please their parents and get their approval more than they actually like to perform.


Here are some warning signs that your child may want to leave the entertainment industry to pursue other interests or is unable to handle the stress.

1.School grades start to fall. 

2. Procrastinates before getting ready for an audition or forgets to bring items they are responsible for to bring to the audition.

3. Has stomach cramps or are too tired to go to audition.

4. The child tells you their acting/dance instructor picks on them.

5.Never wants to practice….always has an excuse, it is never the right time.

6.Stays in their room more….wants to be alone.

7.Easily angered and more argumentative.

8.Signs of possible drug/alcohol usage.

These warning signs need to be addressed and here are a few ways to find the right solution that meets your young performers needs and desires.

1.Have a meeting with their teacher for their assessment.

2.Talk with acting/dance/vocal teacher to see if they are having difficulty with your young performer.

3.If there is a talent agent/manager, talk with them about any changes of behavior.

4.Thoroughly check their room for drug/alcohol which can now be deadly.

5.Have a doctor do a physical for drug use or other medical complications.

6.A mental health professional could be helpful.

7. Have a grandparent or close family friend try to communicate with the child.

8.Last but not least, sit down with your child and inform them that you will love them whether they are a performer or not.  It is totally their choice.  Not everyone is cut out for the life of a performer, just as not everyone could be a doctor or a math professor!

Nancy Bianconi:

Nancy has worked in many different capacities within the arts and entertainment industry from being a dancer in New York to operating a school of performing arts in Los Angeles to producing 3 Off Broadway musicals.   Nancy was contracted by the City of Los Angeles to create the NoHo Arts District in North Hollywood to develop the district as a mecca for young performers to learn their craft.  She has counseled hundreds of young dancers, actors and vocalists in training choices combined with career guidance.  Also, Nancy has been with WCOPA for 20 years focusing on the WCOPA Boot Camp and Judging division.


Being the Parent of a Young Actor (Part II)

Being a parent of a young actor in the entertainment industry is not for the faint of heart, especially
when 90% of auditions are self-tapes.
Auditions are a primary part of all actor’s journeys. However, over the course of the last 2 plus years,
audition processes have changed. Here are my top five tips for your young actor (or any actor, really)
for a successful self-tape.

Tip #1: Location
When deciding where to film your self-tape remember: Location! Location!! Location!!! You don’t have
to spend hundreds of dollars to have a great home audition space. Here are a few essentials that you
need for successful self-tape.
● A Wall – a neutral, solid color wall in your house that has indirect lighting or a space for some
additional lighting. Find a space in your house that does not have books, pictures or any other
distracting elements that could steal focus from your performance. In my house, I have a grey
sheet that I pin up along one wall in my house, and use that as my backdrop for self-tapes.
● Lighting – Natural light is great as long as it is indirect. The goal with lighting is that we can see
you. A good rule of thumb when filming is – can Casting see the color of your eyes? Ring lights
are great if you still need some additional lighting in your space. An inexpensive ring light will
work just fine, two will be even better as you can position them on each side of your camera
which can help to eliminate “ring light eyes.”
Again, remember – expensive does not necessarily mean better. Your self-tape space also does not
need to takeover an entire room in your house. An easy setup is always a less-stressful self-tape

Tip #2: Filming Your Audition
I’ve had clients spend a lot of money on a camera to use at home. However, the camera on your cell
phone is usually more than enough for your self-tape needs.
● Any reliable device that captures a clear picture and good quality audio will successfully get the
job done. iPhone, tablet, digital recorder, etc. Once you have a tripod to mount your camera,
you are ready to go.
● Don’t worry about a microphone. Unless your young actor is auditioning or booking voiceover
work, there is no need to spend additional money on a separate microphone. I have a nice
microphone setup in my home studio for voice over auditions, but have never had to use it for
self-tape auditions.

Tip #3: The Actual Audition
Lights! Camera! Action! Now that you have everything setup, it’s time for filming. Here are a few things
that I have found make for a very successful audition.
● Slating – Generally speaking a slate will consist of name, age (if under 18), height and where
you are based (location). Where you’re based is very important due to Covid filming guidelines. Even if you live in Las Vegas and can get to Los Angeles in four hours – you want Casting to know that you are based in Las Vegas. Your slate is given directly to camera.
● Dialogue/The Scene – Unless your young actor has a series regular audition that’s ten pages
and they want it by the end of the day, actors should have their lines memorized. When you’re
filming from home, Casting knows you’ve had the opportunity for multiple takes. So memorize
and work on your scene.
● Sightlines are important. During your scene do not look directly at the camera. Your sightlines
should be just to the left or right of the camera. If you’re talking to multiple people in a scene,
place one on either side of the camera and make sure you’re never being filmed in profile. If
you’re in profile, Casting won’t be able to see your reactions.
● Props/Pantomime – Props can be distracting – pantomime even more so. When in doubt, less is
more. Most physical activity in your sides doesn’t need to be done in your self-tape, unless
Casting asks for it specifically. For example you don’t need to pantomime eating a sandwich or
hugging a person that isn’t there. The only exception I have seen across the board is the use of
a cell phone.

Tip #4: Follow Directions
The things we have discussed so far are the generally accepted guidelines of a self-tape. However,
different casting directors may have additional requirements for self-tape audition submissions. Please
make sure to read the entire breakdown before filming.
● Be sure to know your angles – close-up shot, medium shot, wide shot
● Have they asked for two takes? If so make sure they are both strong choices
● Make sure you label your audition correctly. Casting usually included details instructions on how
to label and upload your auditions.

Tip #5: Be Prepared
Making sure you are ready to film is important. Even more important is being prepared for your
audition. In addition to memorizing your sides, make sure you understand what the scene is about and
what your character’s truth is within the scene.
In most cases, an Acting Coach can be a great first step in your self-tape audition process. An Acting
Coach will help you learn how to make strong, truthful choices in your audition and, in some cases, will
be able to record your self-tape for you at the time of coaching. I coach many of my clients and we
record the takes that can then be directly uploaded for the audition.
However you decide to set up and film your auditions, remember this should be fun!

Stephanie Lesh-Farrell has been a professional acting instructor for working actors in LA for the past 15+ years. Her clients can be seen in numerous TV/Film, commercial and theatre. Including The Avengers, Man of Steel, Benjamin Button, Once Upon a Time in Hollywood and many TV shows: THe Magicians, Arrow, PEN 15, Teen Wolf, Everything Sucks, Bella and the Bulldogs & Criminal Minds to name a few.

Much of her coaching success comes from her on set knowledge as an actress. Stephanie can be seen in several shows including: Dirty John, Greys Anatomy, Veep, Lucifer, Scandal and The Office.

For more information on coaching and classes please go to her website at https://tigle3.wixsite.com/stephanieleshfarrell/reel  or email her at stephanieleshfarrell@gmail.com.